The Lost Ways Review
People in long term relationships with alcoholics and addicts are given the label codependent. Personally I never cared for that term. It always made me feel like I was the one with the problem, and in a way I was. Lets look at this analogy. You're flying in a plane, suddenly the engines go out and the plane has to make an emergency landing, say in the Hudson River. As the plane lands it starts taking on water, it's time to get out. The person sitting next to you doesn't want to move.
You explain to them that they will die if they don't get up, they say they don't care. You beg and plead with them and even get into a physical altercation, all for the sake of just saving their life. Another passenger, about to exit the plane yells, hey stop being codependent and just leave them there to die. You pause for a moment and realize you love this passenger and that's because its actually your spouse,child, best friend, etc. You look back up and see the plane is filling up fast. If you don't get out now you will die. The person you love is sitting in the seat, tight gripped, and not willing to budge. What do you do now? Save yourself or go down with the plane together?